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from fossilesque@mander.xyz to science_memes@mander.xyz on 28 Aug 01:20
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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 01:28 next collapse

“Spontaneous” doesn’t mean what you think it means.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:01 next collapse

It doesn’t take a lack of understanding of the word to arrive at the guy’s conclusion. It just takes an autistic reading of the word “water”. Water WILL boil in those conditions. Just like we don’t say water “spontaneously” boils when heated up in a kettle even though it’s the exact same thing happening.

So in the abstract, the guy is correct. Though, there is also a bottle of water in the picture, and when discussing which specific water will boil, it’s a guessing game, hence “spontaneous”. “Spontaneous” totally works for discussing the water in the picture.

logicbomb@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 03:10 collapse

One of the things that “spontaneous” doesn’t mean is “without cause”. Also, the astronaut doesn’t mention the water in the picture. She mentions water generally.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:48 collapse

Like I said, it takes an autistic reading of the text.

logicbomb@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 18:00 collapse

“Autistic” doesn’t mean what you think it means. I’d characterize your use of the word as discriminatory and offensive.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 18:24 collapse

No, you just don’t understand it yourself. Many social quirks and awkwardness is because of these sorts of abnormal thought patterns that make people arrive at weird conclusions. They are in fact, an important part of diagnosing autism vs scizophrenia and many other mental disorders, as in some situations, these weird conclusions can make someone seem pretty loony, or make them shut down socially when they realize they’ve misunderstood. So you being offended by this explanation just means you do not understand nor empathise with autistic people.

I’m not saying these are the only things that make someone autistic, or that all autistic people will have such peculiar trains of thought. Just that it is common in the realm of such disorders. Autism is a MASSIVE spectrum, because it describes symptoms, not causes.

So while this type of behavior might eventually get fully separated from autism in to things like social communication disorder, that’s more of a consequence of psychiatrists/etc slowly picking appart that massive umbrella of “autism”, not that it wasn’t or isn’t currently part of it.

MisterFrog@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 16:35 collapse

This guy seems to think it’s equivalent to “by magic”.

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 01:31 next collapse

I hope she brought enough tampons

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 01:53 collapse

For those who don’t get the joke:

Sally Ride, first female NASA astronaut to go to space: "I remember the engineers trying to decide how many tampons should fly on a one-week flight; they asked, “Is 100 the right number?”

“No. That would not be the right number.”

…jsc.nasa.gov/…/RideSK_10-22-02.htm

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 01:58 next collapse

Thanks. A little surprised by the current proportion of people that didn’t understood that reference.

ohulancutash@feddit.uk on 28 Aug 02:52 collapse

It was almost half a century ago

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:59 collapse

Thanks, I was really hoping for a gut punch right about now

ohulancutash@feddit.uk on 28 Aug 05:48 collapse

No problem, old timer.

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 06:23 collapse

Get off my lawn

Skullgrid@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:36 next collapse

I mean, the 10 ish day long mission that recently took 9 months happened, actually with a woman on board. If you said “100 is too much lol” and opted for 10, you’d be laughing out the other side of your face when you started having to improvise sanitation supplies after month three.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boeing_Crew_Flight_Test

TheBat@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:56 next collapse

♻️ Reduce. Reuse. Recycle. ♻️

halcyoncmdr@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 03:02 next collapse

Except that 9 months took place on a space station. There were regular cargo missions to the station. And they could have been brought back at any nearly any point if necessary. Other astronauts literally went up and came back from the Station in that 9 months.

The timeframe being so long was almost entirely about the Starliner itself and what they were going to do with a known defective and potentially unusable spacecraft, where the only trained pilots were those astronauts, not anything with the astronauts themselves.

If the station wasn’t an option for whatever reason (despite it literally being part of the planned mission), then other contingencies would have been available or at least planned already. This wasn’t an Apollo 13 situation where not making it back was a serious concern.

dragonfucker@lemmy.nz on 28 Aug 09:32 next collapse

Yeah but drag would still rather have 100 tampons than no tampons in that situation.

Skullgrid@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:49 collapse

There were regular cargo missions to the station.

I guess you’d run out of food before tampons without cargo shipments? Although if they are using error bars for the food, they might want to use simiar error bars for tampons too? 🤷

Fondots@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 03:07 collapse

To be fair, at the time, there was no ISS for the shuttle to dock to, the shuttle pretty much was all they had. It was designed for missions of about 10 days, and could be expanded to about 17 days if needed. If they needed to stretch it up to a month to go beyond that for her to have a second period, I suspect that would rather have used that cargo capacity for some extra food and such and dealt with her free-bleeding, and much beyond that they’d need to come down one way or another or just die in space.

Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 03:02 collapse

To be fair, I have absolutely no idea how many tampons a woman would need either, although 10 per day seems high.

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 04:02 collapse

They last 4-8 hours. Most women bleed for 3-7 days. So on the outer edge, you could need 42. I’ve never gone through more than a box of 24 in a cycle. But the US hadn’t put a menstruating person in space before, who knew if being in space would somehow unleash a geyser of mysterious lady fluids never before seen by man.

SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de on 28 Aug 04:22 next collapse

And in that moment a new kind of propulsion was discovered

buddascrayon@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:24 next collapse

who knew if being in space would somehow unleash a geyser of mysterious lady fluids never before seen by man.

Fetish unlocked…

mkwt@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 02:43 collapse

To condemn NASA a little bit further: NASA engineering also insisted that Sally Ride absolutely had to have a flight makeup kit. They went to the trouble to design one and make sure everything would work in zero-g. It went up and came back down completely unopened.

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:48 collapse

I mean what do women do besides menstruate and look pretty??

Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 01:44 next collapse

developing or occurring without apparent external influence, force, cause, or treatment

Pretty much the definition of spontaneous if you ask me.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 01:52 next collapse

Eh, it definitely has a cause. A known one. The fact water will boil isn’t spontaneous. “Spontaneous” still works for the sole reason which specific molecules is nigh impossible to predict.

So, who is correct depends entirely on the mental framing of what someone thinks of when they read “water”. Water as an abstract idea of a specific type of fluid? Not spontaneous. Water as in what will literally happen to the bottle of water in the picture? Spontaneous.

This post isn’t showcasing mansplaining. It’s showcasing pedantry. Nearly valid pedantry at that.

lastunusedusername2@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 02:14 next collapse

Everything has a cause.

Iheartcheese@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:51 collapse

Even your face

oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 28 Aug 02:19 next collapse

While you are technically correct, you also misunderstand who the target audience is and what language is required to actually make people understand.

When speaking to a normal person you don’t want to slap random jargon and care too much about precise definitions. So in that context spontaneous is a great word to describe what is happening. People without deep backgrounds in the field will not understand technical jargon and it will only make them not pay attention.

porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 05:43 next collapse

Spontaneous is actually the thermodynamic jargon in this case though :)

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:47 collapse

No, I’m explaining the pedantry, not agreeing with it. I said almost valid pedantry.

dohpaz42@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 02:39 next collapse

This post isn’t showcasing mansplaining. It’s showcasing pedantry.

Just like this comment!

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:46 collapse

Yes, that’s the point. I’m explaining a very pedantic point, ofc that requires ample amounts of pedantry.

WolfLink@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 02:52 next collapse

“Spontaneous” is actually the correct word to use here, using its definition in statistical mechanics.

Here’s an example: …pressbooks.tru.ca/…/5-6/

Nikls94@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 04:36 next collapse

This should have been the correct answer to Kev, and not that thing about mansplaining.

exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:27 collapse

I think would’ve even worked in a reference to “it is Kev’s turn to study statistical mechanics.”

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:44 collapse

Yes, I already said it is correct when viewing it as specific water boiling.

BussyGyatt@feddit.org on 28 Aug 03:05 next collapse

no

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 18:22 collapse

Yes. Pedantry doesn’t make the guy more correct. He’s still being an ass. I’m not agreeing with him. So the fact you still don’t understand is a bit… sad for you. Do you treat autistic people like shit because they don’t operate on social norms and the most common understandings of statements? If you say, “no”, then I’d suggest you introspect a LOT more, because the answer is clearly yes.

BussyGyatt@feddit.org on 28 Aug 19:11 collapse

words have meanings. thats not what spontaneous means in this context. the definition of spontaneous in this context is independent of the nature of water. and i frankly don’t give a shit if you struggle with social norms. i care that the word has a meaning and you are abusing it.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 31 Aug 05:41 collapse

I see you’ve never conversed with anautistic person. Sad of you to be such a judgemental shitstain.

NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io on 28 Aug 03:04 next collapse

I'd still say it's spontaneous because when you reduce pressure you're removing a factor rather than adding one. It's like saying "when you compress a spring and then remove the compression force, it will spontaneously return to its previous length." Water vapor can be seen as water's "natural" state when thero no pressure forcing it to be a liquid. Also saying "simple thermo" to an astronaut is definitely mansplaining, because it implies the other person doesn't know that simple thermo. Maybe it's just pedantry, but in that case damn that's some terrible phrasing.

Donkter@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 03:13 next collapse

Spontaneous doesn’t mean “happens suddenly without explanation” what are you on about?

ryedaft@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 05:20 next collapse

Hahaha, under that definition not spontaneous can ever occur

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:59 collapse

No, many things in chemistry are functionally spontaneous. That’s why her usage of the word is totally fine.

He’s just taking an autistic reading of the text as I’ve described already. He’s being a bit of a pedantic ass, sure, but mansplaining is not simply being an ass.

porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 05:42 next collapse

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

Eh, it definitely has a cause. A known one.

Nothing to do with the physical definition of spontaneity. Spontaneity of a process just means that the ∆G is negative or total energy of the system is lower after the process, and additional energy isn’t required for the process to be thermodynamically allowed. This is, and I can’t stress this enough, the simplest of simple thermo.

for the sole reason which specific molecules is nigh impossible to predict

Also unrelated, but it is fully impossible to predict, since in trying to predict it well enough you reach quantum scales where everything is probabilistic. That doesn’t at all mean everything is spontaneous.

So, who is correct depends entirely on the mental framing of what someone thinks of when they read “water”.

Nope, the first person is strictly correct and the second is strictly incorrect, as described above.

Water as an abstract idea of a specific type of fluid? Not spontaneous.

Nope, exactly spontaneous. You could even forget about water entirely and model this just as a bunch of nuclei and electrons in a box and derive that the lowest energy state has them being in a gas of atoms, and the initial state doesn’t, which is enough to demonstrate by our earlier statements that boiling is spontaneous.

Water as in what will literally happen to the bottle of water in the picture?

This is “not even wrong” territory.

This post isn’t showcasing mansplaining.

It absolutely is. We will define mansplaining here as the confidently incorrect dismissal of statements of women by men where we suspect that the genders of the participants may play a role.

The first part has been demonstrated above. It is also reasonable to assume the second given that we observe this happening to women at a far greater frequency than to men. Although, like with atoms, we cannot prove that this individual instance is a direct result, it is consistent with the probabilistic data and we would need additional evidence to conclude that this particular guy just goes around wrongly correcting everyone equally.

Nearly valid pedantry at that.

Once again, not remotely.

Deme@sopuli.xyz on 28 Aug 06:01 next collapse

Well said.

I think you may have meant to say “confidently incorrect dismissal” in your definition of mansplaining.

porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 06:06 collapse

Oh, good catch, thanks

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:45 collapse

Nah you just don’t understand language or pedantry.

I said it takes an autistic reading to come to the non-standard conclusion. I’m also not agreeing with the pedantry, hence “almost valid”.

I’m sorry you do not understand how autistic people misread things or jump to funky conclusions, but I am wholly correct and you just want to be an asshole.

You’re probably one of those people that perpetuates the mistreatment of autistic people for shit like this. Pathetic of you.

porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 18:59 collapse

Lol

Megamanexent@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 20:43 collapse

And here we observe the Pendant in the natural habitat. Looks like they are trying to troll with the one word comment, “LOL”. Where will the conversation go from here, only time will tell.

Whostosay@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 06:01 next collapse

You should be an astronaut

dragonfucker@lemmy.nz on 28 Aug 09:28 next collapse

It’s not an external cause. It boils on its own, because the molecules don’t want to be close together.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 18:01 collapse

Pressure almost by definition is external influence…

dragonfucker@lemmy.nz on 28 Aug 23:41 collapse

There’s no pressure in space

Megamanexent@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 13:37 collapse

I agree, it really is showcasing pedantry. That man is just an asshole, not a misogynistic asshole. To me, this thread is full of confirmation bias. People who want to see what they personally believe, not objective reality.

finitebanjo@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 06:18 next collapse

In addition to what MotoAsh said, it also has a definite external influence and a well defined force acting upon it. It boiled because it underwent a change in pressure.

feannag@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 06:50 collapse

Without apparent external influence. Relative pressure is something humans have a hard time judging. As well as it just exists everyone in that zone vice something easy to perceive, like a fire under a pot boiling water.

Megamanexent@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 13:32 next collapse

You are telling me the vacuum pump makes it not an apparent external influence? It is kinda loud?

nelly_man@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 17:55 collapse

She wasn’t saying that water was spontaneously boiling in this chamber. She was saying that they were in a space-equivalent chamber with a pressure such that water would spontaneously boil. If you found yourself in the environment that is being simulated here (outer space), you would be able to observe water spontaneously boiling without the vacuum pumps.

Megamanexent@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 20:32 collapse

The act of going into space is very apparent. There is a giant rocket you are strapped to. My point isn’t arguing “spontaneous boiling”, which in this case is used correctly. But rather the common use of spontaneous in this thread is defined as having no apparent cause. That’s just not true. There is a cause, in the picture, the pressure of the room is being manipulated. And the reason for the water boiling is the ΔP.

Dasus@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 19:14 collapse

Idk man, my ears are pretty good at estimating quick relative pressure changes.

Also, were I in a spavesuit, I’d probably have trouble judging temperature changed as well.

Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club on 28 Aug 13:40 collapse

Yes, afaik in science community that is in fact the correct use of the word, meaning from “environmental” conditions (well, it’s test conditions for the environment in this case) and not from an active, localised influence.

Dasus@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 16:34 collapse

I mean, if you put some stuff in a room, then slowly start to heat the room up, would you describe the things — which will at one point or another catch fire —as “spontaneously” combusting?

I’m not arguing the use is wrong here, just a thought I had.

Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club on 28 Aug 17:00 next collapse

Yes, that is why I used the quotation marks & further explained that the “heat up the room” in your case would be ‘a simulation of environment’.

Eg, a tree at 20°C has an extremely low chance of spontaneously combusting into a self-fueling oxidation event (lol, shit’s on fire, yo) in your average environment, but those chances at 200°C are much higher.
In order to test this spontaneous combustion theory (whilst having no regard for the life of the tree) you would need to simulate that 200°C environmental conditions. … by heating the air around the tree.
In that case you would heat up a chamber or whatever and in turn eventually maybe burn the tree.
This wound still test/prove the spontaneous combustibility thing.
You bringing open flame in contact with the tree however would not* be that - that is just actively (non-spontaneously) starting a reaction.

This is an experiment trying to test some natural conditions. Every test as such (eg if witnessed by a clueless alien observer) is you doing something actively so ofc none of it is spontaneous.

*unless the environmental conditions you were testing/simulating would be “open 1000° flames/plasma completely everywhere” … but you may not get a grant for testing “if wood added to fire also burns”

rumba@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 19:04 next collapse

“Spontaneous” in this usage is highly dependent on frame of reference.

Dasus@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 19:12 collapse
SparroHawc@lemmy.zip on 29 Aug 01:44 collapse

Yes, actually. The autoignition point is the temperature at which a given material will spontaneously (as in, without a spark or the like) catch fire, given a source of oxygen.

Dasus@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 03:03 collapse
theneverfox@pawb.social on 28 Aug 03:00 next collapse

I hate the mansplaining accusation, especially in this context

Fucking let ideas compete. Call him out for being pedantic. If you have to bring gender into nearly any conversation about science, you’ve already lost

Just shame them with better science

NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io on 28 Aug 03:10 next collapse

The mansplaining thing in this context is more about an unfounded assumption of ignorance in the other party. Usually one would assume an astronaut to know basic thermodynamics, but the tweet's phrasing implies the other other person doesn't. It's less "you're wrong" and more "why do you think she doesn't know that."

plyth@feddit.org on 28 Aug 05:47 next collapse

unfounded assumption of ignorance in the other party

That’s the joke. Haha, stupid astronaut, you are supposed to know.

It’s obviously too early to make that joke with an astronautess.

porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 06:25 collapse

If it were, it wouldn’t be a good joke, because this exactly conforms to the thermodynamic definition of spontaneity. Saying it is spontaneous is, quite exactly, simple thermo.

finitebanjo@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 06:15 next collapse

A lot more people than that astronaut are going to see the post reply, though. A lot of them probably haven’t taken a thermodynamics lesson.

Sorry, I didn’t mean to mansplain that to you just now. Just wanted future readers to consider another angle.

NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io on 28 Aug 08:30 collapse

A lot of them probably haven't taken a thermodynamics lesson.

Sure, but in that case the replier could've phrased their response as such. As it stands they're addressing the poster, not other people seeing the exchange.

Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org on 28 Aug 10:58 collapse

Sure, but in that case the replier could’ve phrased their response as such.

But like if we’re being super duper real for a sec, who gives a shit? It’s such a waste of energy and won’t change anything to pick meaningless social media posts apart. He made a fair point, I choose not to interpret it beyond that.

NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io on 28 Aug 12:46 next collapse

I mean, you choose not to interpret it beyond that because to you it's something other people are talking about. To someone who experiences this regularly it can apparently get really annoying, hence the negative reactions.

moakley@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:35 collapse

I’m pretty sure he didn’t make a fair point. I haven’t taken any thermodynamics classes, but I think the word “spontaneous” means something more specific in this context and is technically accurate.

He’s trying to one up her by using the common definition.

So he’s wrong on multiple levels here, and there’s no reason to pick apart the meaningless social media post accusing him of mansplaining.

Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org on 28 Aug 20:29 collapse

The term spontaneous in thermodynamics refers to processes that occur without changes to the system. That doesn’t really apply here. “Spontaneous” boiling otherwise makes sense in the context of superheated water that starts boiling at the slightest nudge. This might very well be what she meant. I’m not even trying to say he proved her wrong. I’m saying he added insightful information. His conversation skills could use some work but accusing him of anything beyond that is a reach in my opinion.

moakley@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 21:29 collapse

Pretty sure it’s a reaction without any external energy input, which this is, but again, I’m no astronaut.

exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 18:37 collapse

In this case, though, he’s literally wrong. “Spontaneous” has a precise scientific definition and the astronaut is using it correctly.

giantripdrop@piefed.social on 28 Aug 03:30 next collapse

I just saw a person in a suit, then read the "mansplaining" comment, then went back and saw the posters name.

It feels so forced or I am just oblivious. I thought the response was an asshole being an "acktuallllllly" response.

Gladaed@feddit.org on 28 Aug 06:18 next collapse

It’s Kev M.

tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 09:47 next collapse

Ken M has smooth skin

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 03:58 collapse

What happened to Ken M?

yermaw@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 11:09 next collapse

Is there a better term for it?

I feel like mansplaining as a word is similar to feminism as a word. It has assumption of gender rooted into it but its gone past that at this point.

Nelots@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 13:53 collapse

but its gone past that at this point

Maybe it shouldn’t. I doubt people would like the word feminism being used if it inherently painted women as sexist.

yermaw@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 19:38 collapse

Lots of people going for the downvote button but still no better word for the concept has come up.

Which is a shame. I was hoping to find a word where you could use the meaning without the topic suddenly changing to sexism.

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 03:53 next collapse

There genuinely isn’t a word, beyond maybe being patronizing

At least not in common English

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:40 collapse

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ne_supra_crepidam

Would Latin work? 😵

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 23:17 collapse

No… Unless you start using the word and it catches on. Which is easier to do than it sounds, but the meaning tends to drift by the time you hear it in the wild

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yarr@feddit.nl on 28 Aug 13:03 next collapse

Did you just mansplain mansplaining!?

When will men learn to stop trying to share information?!

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:32 collapse

You got me in the first part

I hope this is sarcasm though

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 13:10 next collapse

The term “mansplaining” is not just about a man being pedantic. It is a man being pedantic or overexplaining to a woman either about something she is likely more knowledgeable on than he is or about something that is such common knowledge it should be assumed that she knows these facts as well as he does. It is a demonstration of misogyny through the assumption that you, a man, knows better than her, a woman, despite all liklihood to the contrary and yet you condescend to her anyway. It’s the arrogance and gender bias that is the problem, not the pedantry itself.

Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca on 28 Aug 13:18 next collapse

The thing I don’t like about the mansplaining accusation is it makes lots of men out to be sexist/misogynistic when they are really just pedantic twits that very well could have commented the same stupid thing to a man. But because it was to a woman someone has to accuse them of being sexist too.

Don’t get me wrong there are a lot of sexist assholes, but just assuming it to be the case off a single comment irks me.

Soup@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 13:28 next collapse

(New person here)

The big issue is that we don’t see men being pedantic towards other men at nearly the same rate. Absolutely it happens, but there is definitely a problem with men not respecting women specifically.

Part of it, I think, comes from social conditioning and it’s more of a reaction than anything on purpose when it comes to a large subset of the people doing it. Even still, it’s important to gender it at least sometimes to highlight why we might be doing it and to give us the correct thing to reflect on. I’ve done it before where I could say it to a man but I realized that I what I was saying or doing was fueled, at least in part, by some internalized misogyny. Knowing that has helped me get to it before I do something stupid.

pahlimur@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:40 next collapse

Men are the most pedantic assholes to other men.

Treating women like they are soft little creatures is insanely sexist. Treat them as equals and they will treat you the same. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for other men to understand this.

Edit: i guess my assumption that men shouldn’t be a huge bag of dicks is wrong. No one should ever say something to a male that they shouldn’t say to a female. We shouldn’t need to change our behavior based on the gender of who we are talking to unless we as men fuckin suck.

Soup@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 19:53 collapse

I think you’re missing the point. It’s not that men need to treat women “equally”, it’s that the reason mansplaining happens is different to the reason that generic pedantry happens. They can happen at the same time, but the general idea is that mansplaining is pedantry with a boost of sexism, intentional or otherwise, not simply being pedantic to a woman. The difference is subtle, and luckily the solution of just not not being an ass to people solves both issues quite well but it’s still good to try identify how much of one or the other is present when you slip up so you can address the correct problem.

Put it another way, you also shouldn’t be treating an old person like a baby when helping them with their phone, or a child like they’re stupid and couldn’t possibly know things a grown-up doesn’t. All of these are genderless examples of how disrespect can come from several angles at once and there is also the gendered scenario we call “mansplaining”.

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 04:43 collapse

Okay, but do you not realize how big a problem being discharitable to others is?

The fucking fabric of society is falling apart. I’m sorry women get underestimated, like I do. It’s very annoying, believe me, I deal with it constantly

But you suck it up, listen, and make them feel foolish with your response.

The alternative is a further breakdown of communication. You can’t be primed to see others as bad actors, it’s so incredibly damaging

No one is the villain in their own story. No one knows how smart they are, only if others are higher or lower.

Listening to people tell you things you already know is inevitable. It’s social hygiene. It sucks, but it’s the social contract

Soup@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 20:30 collapse

That’s a lot of words to say you don’t understand the difference. Not knowing something is fine, but fighting it like this is weird. You’re not helping anything with this comment and instead are basically trying to say that it’s not a problem enough to even talk about or understand. If you cannot handle this information that’s something to look inwardly at, not lash out at me for simply explaining what it is.

Women feel talked down because they are women and they can see the exact same men treating other men differently. I regularly see this happen to them, too. Sometimes it’s a small accident and sometimes it’s very much on purpose and all of it is important to understand. I don’t know why you want to pretend like it doesn’t happen but it does either way.

theneverfox@pawb.social on 30 Aug 03:18 collapse

It happens, I’m not denying that.

But the cure is worse than the poison. The term primes people to see it where it isn’t there, and that’s extraordinarily toxic.

Call them a misogynist and be done with it. I know it when I see it. You know it when you see it.

It’s like man spreading. It’s ok to be comfortable. It’s not ok to push into other people’s personal space. If you’re alone on a bench, who gives a fuck. If you want to signal “I’d prefer no one sit next to me”, that’s fine until someone sits next to you. Then you’re an asshole or you’re not, we don’t need extra words to gender niche behaviors

Words are perception. Labeling a thing primes you to see it. These overly specific, gender based labels are harmful

It literally makes the world worse for everyone involved to create subcategories of asshole behavior based on gender dynamics

Soup@lemmy.world on 30 Aug 16:15 collapse

The cure is not worse than the poison. And if you admit that it happens, and you also say we should call them misogynist if they’re doing it, then calling someone out for “mansplaining” is exactly that except for some reason you don’t like it.

It’s giving “I’m fine with the protests I just don’t think they should block traffic or otherwise get in my way.”

theneverfox@pawb.social on 31 Aug 00:23 collapse

Yeah well disputing traffic does something. It makes people feel the breakdown of society in a visceral way

The concept of mansplaining is discharitable. It is bad to prime people to spot it, because false positives are extremely damaging to interpersonal relations.

Don’t give it a name, just call it what it is: talking to a sexist asshole. There’s no confusion there… It doesn’t matter if they’re being patronizing or making rude comments, the Venn diagram is a circle.

You’re taking to a bigot, or you’re not. And when you’re not, you’re probably talking to someone neurodivergent, who is genuinely trying to communicate in good faith

Soup@lemmy.world on 31 Aug 15:08 collapse

If you’ve already agreed that the person is sexist then people will just say that anyone doing it is sexist and you’ll complain that people are primed to say it and “false positives…” and all that.

It sounds like you’ve felt personally hurt by this in the past less than there’s a good argument here.

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 13:49 next collapse

Sure, but being an arrogant prick that thinks they’re smarter than anyone else, regardless of gender, is already a thing that should be derided. Having only a single or few instances of this behavior being aimed at women as an example of his arrogance may mistakenly lead one to attribute that to misogyny instead of a general prickishness behavior, sure. But that’s a perfectly understandable assumption to make in that situation and the mistake of calling them the wrong kind of asshole, I feel, is less of a concern than him, indeed, being an asshole.

NotANumber@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:13 next collapse

You can do that without calling someone sexist.

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:16 next collapse

Sure. But it gives the appearance of sexism. Who gives a fuck if he is being an asshole if you mislabeled the kind of asshole he is. I don’t.

Gustephan@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:28 collapse

You kinda should. The entire value of shaming people is to show a person that somebody else or a group of somebody elses do not approve of their behaviour. If you dont care about being accurate in calling out antisocial behaviour, how do you think the person expressing said antisocial behaviour will understand that interaction? Do you think they’ll be able to understand what they did wrong? Obviously thats not always relevant, some people just want to mudwrestle and they’ll never hear you no matter what you say. It’s worth it to be accurate in case they are the type of person who might remotely consider your words though

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:31 collapse

If you dont care about being accurate in calling out antisocial behaviour, how do you think the person expressing said antisocial behaviour will understand that interaction?

If they were being sexist and you don’t point that out, wouldn’t that be inaccurate?

Gustephan@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:38 next collapse

Yes, it would. It’s also not related to the comment I replied to, in which you stated that you dont care about being accurate when calling somebody out. My point is that you should care about accuracy when youre calling out bad behaviour, I’m not trying to defend Mr “actually it would be spontaneous” from the image

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:52 collapse

Sure, my point was that a single instance outside of other context means that you cannot necessarily discern a pattern of behavior upon which to base your conclusion into which kind of asshole he is being. You could be innacurate in assuming he is sexist as well as assuming he isn’t. If complete accuracy is required, then you would need to not make a conclusion at all and let the comment slide without feedback until you have more data. I’m saying that it is more important to call them out than to worry about the exact accuracy, to not let the comment slide, to make sure they know that, in some way, it was inappropriate.

One’s experience may lead one to make some assumptions that are incorrect in this context, but I don’t feel like that is the important part that you should critique. Either she says nothing, calls him a sexist, or calls him out but doesnt point out the sexism even if there is unconfirmed sexism involved. I’m saying either of the latter is reasonable under the circumstances.

Gustephan@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 15:11 collapse

It’s not about making a value judgement on a person, its about calling out a specific behaviour. As a thought experiment, would you have engaged with me if I came at you like “you’re an idiot” (making a value judgement on you as a person) rather than specifically addressing the behaviour you exhibited that I disagree with?

To be clear, I have no negative opinions of you and I absolutely do not think you’re an idiot. That was posed purely as a hypothetical to illustrate the difference in communication effectiveness between making a value judgement about a person and addressing a specific behaviour.

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 15:29 collapse

Mansplaining is a behavior. It is a man arrogantly talking down to a woman assuming she knows less than him by virtue of being a woman or despite evidence to the contrary. If their defense to that was, “I just thought I was smarter than you and needed to demonstrate that, but it had nothing to do with your gender. How dare you judge me for being sexist.” Then… well, I feel like they still need to examine that behavior.

Gustephan@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 16:08 collapse

Indeed, the behaviour does need to be examined. You are actively confusing that examination if you are inaccurate when calling out the behaviour (again, with no intention of defending the situation in the OP, purely disagreeing with your “I dont care about being accurate when calling people out” statements)

ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:56 collapse

it would be incomplete, not inaccurate.
it is much better to be incomplete than inaccurate.

moakley@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:25 collapse

Sometimes people are being sexist. Mansplaining is a real thing that happens. You may not see the need for the word because you personally don’t need it, but maybe you can understand that there a lot of people who do need it?

NotANumber@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 15:33 collapse

I mean sure, but you can’t deny it’s misused sometimes. I never said it didn’t happen at all. Stop reading what I didn’t write.

moakley@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 16:58 collapse

Yes, it’s misused sometimes. And it sounds like you agree that sometimes it’s the right word for the situation.

If a man inaccurately and smugly trying to correct a female astronaut, punctuating it with “Simple thermo”, isn’t the right time to use “mansplaining”, then when would be?

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:25 collapse

So you prefer defaming people just in case? I’m sorry but that’s dumb.

At this point most people explaining things to others, assuming they’re not knowledgeable, can be called racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic…

I feel like falsely calling out someone makes you a bigger asshole than someone thinking they’re smarter. In a way, you think you’re smarter and believe they only say these things because they’re discriminating.

exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:24 next collapse

they are really just pedantic twits that very well could have commented the same stupid thing to a man.

Yes, but men experience this at a slightly lower rate.

So if an astronaut man were to get, say, 10 of these comments, while an astronaut woman gets 15 of these comments, it’s fair to infer that about 5 out of the 15 comments wouldn’t have been made to a man. Problem is that you can’t exactly tell which 5 they are. But you know it’s happening.

Of course, if the ratio is actually closer to 50 versus 10 comments like this, then you’ve got a pretty good sense that 80% of the pedantic overexplainers-to-an-expert are doing it because the original poster is a woman.

And one thing you find for these types of examples with a woman who has clear, unmistakable, objective indicators of expertise (literal astronaut) in the topic at hand is that the ratio is much higher for women than men, in a way that might not have been obvious for lesser credentials (like a high school science teacher). But yet, it still happens.

It’s a name for a phenomenon that has existed for a long time. It’s a concise way to describe that phenomenon, and I still think it’s a good word to have in the vocabulary.

ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:54 next collapse

pssssh, sounds like typical Womanplaining….
that’s where a woman complains too much….
you see, in a typical post by a Man, they will get on average 15 complaints by women, but in a post by a woman, only five complaints by women… now you can’t tell which posts are Womanplaining and which ones are genuine complaints, but i think inventing new terms with “woman” and “man” attached to the front are the perfect way to achieve harmony between the sexes and don’t just reinforce sexism.
/s
all satire.
but, “mansplain” is hate speech and it needs to stop.
sexist condescending speech of men towards women is hateful and needs to stop as well….
inventing new slurs is counterproductive.

petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 28 Aug 15:35 collapse

but, “mansplain” is hate speech

lmao

ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 18:23 collapse

it sure as hell ain’t nothing like misogyny, but misandry is a real thing:
en.wikipedia .org/wiki/Misandry
….
but i do appreciate your thoughtfulness, @petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone
(crazy how MRA psychos have ruined any conversation about the topic)

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:18 collapse

Both exist and are a problem.

ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 29 Aug 15:58 collapse

true

Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca on 29 Aug 05:31 collapse

Yeah I do no think mansplaining is not a thing that happens, it absolutely is and is incredibly annoying and insulting.

I just don’t like how people assume someone is misogynistic and mansplaining because of a single comment on the internet and get all accusatory.

It is more of a thing that you need to witness a person doing multiple times to women in order to definitely make an opinion of that person.

If it were a YouTuber that constantly does it in multiple videos then ya fair, throw that in the comments all you want.

In this case though it’s jumping the gun a little bit.

Karjalan@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 19:53 collapse

I think the problem a lot of people here are having is that they’re assuming the accusation is active sexism. Like it’s a cognitive decision to go “phht, what would she know, she’s a woman”.

I suspect the vast majority of mansplaning scenarios are subconscious. They probably don’t even know that’s what they’re doing abs would never see themselves as being sexist. I think that’s because everyone sees the word “sexist” and associates it with clichéd extreme sexism, like cat calling, not wanting a Female pilot, ignoring their ideas in meetings etc.

The thing about subtle unconscious bias is that you’re almost never aware you’re doing it, but it still has similar effects on the affected group.

The healthy thing to do is to listen to the person it’s affecting, analyse the scenario, and reflect on if it’s something that you, or people you know, might have been doing without realising.

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 03:50 collapse

Counterpoint - explaining things the other party knows is how you get on the same page.

I don’t give a shit about your degree or your gender, it tells me nothing about where you’re at. Most people are fucking idiots who have no idea how anything works, and that includes doctors and probably astronauts

And I say this as someone constantly underestimated. Yeah, it’s annoying to hear things you already know at a basic level. I ask people if they know about things and take them at their word

But this is just normal communication. I don’t know what you know, you don’t know what I know. I probably understand how your mind and body work better than you do, because most people don’t know how their mind and body work beyond a 4th grade level

Explaining things the other person knows is undesirable. It’s also how most people reach the starting line for a dialogue

ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:46 next collapse

everyone knows that.
you just explained very common knowledge to people that certainly know it.
the problem is the terminology…
men and women condescendingly explain shit to people all the time. If you attach the word “man” to it then you’re being sexist.
when a man is condescending to a woman because she’s a woman, then that man is being sexist.
if you assume every time a man is being condescending to a woman they’re being sexist, then you’re sexist.
every time ANYONE makes a factual claim on the internet and it gets enough traction, someone will chime in and condescendingly explain why they’re wrong. gender is not the only factor.
….
it’s certainly terrible how men are sexist and condescending towards women so often… making a new sexist term doesn’t help that problem.
also, i’m not assuming your gender and you don’t know mine, i am merely disagreeing with you.

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 01:39 next collapse

That’s a great way to put it.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:31 collapse

that’s mansplaining /s

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:08 collapse

through the assumption that you, a man, knows better than her

And what’s the evidence that this happened here? You just assumed he was sexist.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:09 collapse

Funnily enough, assuming men are likely to be sexist is sexist

Baked86@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 13:46 next collapse

He’s just trying to combat misinformation, the gall to accuse someone of sexism after being wrong is staggering.

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 14:25 next collapse

She wasn’t wrong though. It does happen spontaneously in that it is happening without apparent external cause. There is an external cause, the change in pressure, but it is not apparent. And most people are aware that water boils at low pressures at room temps. He even said it was “basic thermo”, so of course a NASA astronaut would know about this basic scientific phenomenon, as would most people.

ayyy@sh.itjust.works on 28 Aug 16:11 collapse

Do you honestly believe that the astronaut doesn’t understand how boiling water works?

ftbd@feddit.org on 28 Aug 16:18 next collapse

He’s not being pedantic, he’s just obviously not familiar with the vocabulary used in chemistry (although he pretends to be).

theneverfox@pawb.social on 29 Aug 01:27 collapse

No he’s making a specific type of joke, but if he were wrong then say that instead

And if you want more of that type of joke, look up not ken m

firewyre@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:08 collapse

This!!!

Cat_Daddy@hexbear.net on 28 Aug 04:00 next collapse

And also it’s quite spontaneous. It’s not like you have to thump it to start it boiling. When the pressure gets to the right mark, it just starts.

anas@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 04:31 next collapse

Again, who’s recreating Twitter screenshots really badly, and why? There’s a person on Reddit with like five alts who’s been spamming these posts, and I’m so confused by it.

unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de on 28 Aug 07:01 next collapse

The entire picture looks completely fake like somebody tried to create a twitter screenshot from scratch in paint.

Rozz@lemmy.sdf.org on 28 Aug 11:02 collapse

You should be able to do a near perfect job in any image editor. They make kits that have all the assets already built.

fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com on 28 Aug 10:47 next collapse

Bots building histories. (Not this post, on Reddit)

exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 28 Aug 14:18 next collapse

This post literally has the watermark of the account that creates/posts these. Other people or bots are reposting them, sure, but they’re coming from some kind of aggregation account that has this particular style of recreating Twitter threads in a space that fits into the Instagram preference for square images.

Lemmisaur@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 19:43 next collapse

<img alt="" src="https://lemmy.zip/pictrs/image/27ad1d2f-0d61-4741-892c-2de71c144810.webp">

Wow dude, the irony is insane. Can’t belive you would steal this.

axEl7fB5@lemmy.cafe on 28 Aug 21:09 next collapse

this shit looks like ms paint

Fizz@lemmy.nz on 28 Aug 21:32 next collapse

I’m pretty sure its crafted rage bait to get women angry at men and men angry at women. Its constant on reddit. The conversion is probably a decade old at this point if its even real in the first place.

umbrella@lemmy.ml on 29 Aug 13:13 collapse

yeah this looks fake as fuck with the purpose of being inflammatory and divisive.

finitebanjo@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 06:14 next collapse

I like to imagine replies are more often for future readers than for the OP.

Gladaed@feddit.org on 28 Aug 06:17 next collapse

It’s a pedantic take that makes sense and is fun. It relies on spontaneous having multiple meanings.

A spontaneous person randomly does weird things. A spontaneous occurring change happens without the environment promoting it.

There is no man’s planning. This is willful ignorance to enable a joke.

Edit: literally Kev M

jaybone@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 06:25 next collapse

Are all image links on Lemmy.zip blocked by cloudflare?

EDIT seems to be working again now.

ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org on 28 Aug 06:31 next collapse

I’m having issues with the proxied ones (451 Unavailable for legal reasons). Luckily you can use Redirector or similar to un-proxy them automatically.

jaybone@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 06:34 collapse

I’m using a web app on an iPhone. Not sure that will work for me.

Dyskolos@lemmy.zip on 28 Aug 09:33 next collapse

I wanted to say I have no problems. Then I remembered I’m on Lemmy.zip and this is maybe why.

Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club on 28 Aug 13:37 collapse

It happens sometimes for me too, short periods only tho (last few months).

Zerush@lemmy.ml on 28 Aug 12:57 next collapse

  • Water in space boils, freezes or evaporates?
  • Yes
OozingPositron@feddit.cl on 28 Aug 15:39 collapse

Triple point moment.

ShaggySnacks@lemmy.myserv.one on 28 Aug 23:49 collapse

Water is a triple threat in space?

Megamanexent@lemmy.zip on 29 Aug 00:01 next collapse

Yup! Somehow you can drown in your own sweat and or emesis not to mention any glob of free floating water that gets attached to your face.

icelimit@lemmy.ml on 29 Aug 08:08 collapse

Until you hit ice9

pcalau12i@lemmygrad.ml on 28 Aug 19:12 next collapse

People love to be pedantic as an “own” because they think it makes them look smart. And a lot of the times it actually works / is rewarded.

firewyre@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:07 next collapse

He’s right tho, so…?

Doomsider@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:16 next collapse

Large airplane flies overhead.

BleatingZombie@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:55 collapse

Wouldn’t say it flies. It just glides because a giant threw it

Hadriscus@jlai.lu on 29 Aug 01:02 collapse

Simple aerodynamics

buddascrayon@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:17 next collapse

You should look up the definition of boiling.

It isn’t that he’s wrong, it’s that his input was both unnecessary and irrelevant.

BleatingZombie@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 20:55 collapse

Also, spontaneity is fairly vague. At best he’s just arguing semantics

BussyCat@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 23:38 collapse

It says in textbooks that in a vacuum water will spontaneously boil so arguing that it’s not spontaneous is wrong.

It happens as pressure decreases but unlike conventional boiling where you can see nucleate boiling it can instead happen all at once without you adding heat to the system

Most importantly he’s trying to argue semantics with a person who is much smarter than him and then ends it with a condescending “simple thermo”.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 21:03 next collapse

People say the same thing to other men. Is it mansplaining then too?

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 22:04 next collapse

Yeah, Men do it to each other all the time too. The sociological context when that happens makes it much less difficult to manage though, as there isn’t the cultural tendency to dismiss other men when they imply they have an understanding of a field that is perceived as typically male-exclusive (hard sciences, mechanics, etc.). It’s a term to describe a complicated and fairly important topic, that has unfortunately become a meme for people to rail against because it’s been characterized as a criticism of an entire group (men) and not as it’s intended (as a comment on a specific person’s behavior).

ronigami@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 22:37 collapse

It also has an anti-intellectual aspect to it. People like to explain things, that’s sort of the whole idea behind science, is to be able to do that. Sometimes people try to explain things and they’re wrong. And that’s okay, it’s part of the process of science. Further, the notes of patronization are subjective and not everyone would agree they’re present here.

So to automatically label things like this as “mansplaining” makes a few unfair assumptions.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 23:03 collapse

And there’s the issue with it being treated as a criticism of an entire group, and not as a comment on a single person’s behavior. There are obviously exceptions to behavioral norms, and as a result any interaction between humans is going to be uniquely contextual. But presenting the concept as a whole as anti-intellectual (or as is commonly done, as some kind of attack on the ability for an enthusiastic person to explain something they are passionate about) fundamentally mischaracterizes the concept. It is not an automatic label that is applied, it’s a description of a common and very complex negative behavior.

To explain something needlessly, pedantically or condescendingly and to someone (usually female) that is already versed or even an authority on the topic are the traits of ‘mansplaining’. What is happening in the OP, where someone is condescendingly and needlessly correcting a woman (who can be assumed to be aware of 3rd-grade level science like phase transitions given she is qualified to be an astronaut) on her use of a term (that was already a correct explanation) is the issue that makes it mansplaining.

You can be enthusiastic about a topic and share that knowledge all you want, nobody is saying “no don’t explain things to girls” (or whatever, I don’t think that’s what you’re claiming to be clear it’s just an example). They’re saying “don’t be rude to other people while explaining things, and this was a rude way to do that”.

Pet peeve

(This always comes up when discussing this topic: being autistic is not an excuse for being rude. It’s an explanation for non-typical behavior, and does merit and nearly always garner forgiveness for infractions of social norms, but you can still be a rude jerk even if you are autistic. You can also be a great, kind and understanding person if you are autistic. Autistic people are, fundamentally, people. People are a diverse group not defined by a singular aspect of their personality.)

Edit: Clarity

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 00:37 next collapse

It wasn’t rude at all, it was one of the most neutral ways of “correcting” someone (in quotes because yes the correction was wrong) but it was basically “I think it’s actually X” which is about as non-aggressive as it can get.

The issue I take with it is not at all about group dynamics. Even if it’s one guy saying this to another, if someone is going to call that “mansplaining” I have an issue with it because it’s just explaining. Incorrectly, and maybe very slightly patronizingly (but only because the person being spoken to is a scientist and not because of the way it’s said), but still at its core simply explaining something they think is true. That is the core of scientific discourse and I don’t care what the genders are, giving it a stupid name and using that as an insult is antithetical to the open and curious exchange of information.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 00:48 collapse

You seem to have a preconceived idea of what ‘mansplaining’ is and, in an effort to examine that, could you tell me why you think the term has achieved such widespread cultural use?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 00:52 collapse

Why widespread? Well because it’s “punching up” and catchy and plays in to the traditional feminist narrative that women are oppressed in $WESTERN_COUNTRY particular in science even though women regularly outperform their male counterparts in terms of college grading and admissions. You’re basically asking why feminism is popular.

Wouldn’t it be natural that having existed as an idea for over 10 years I would have a preconceived notion of it?

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 01:13 next collapse

I’m circumspectly asking what you believe are the driving forces behind feminism’s popularity, absolutely. To carry your allusion, the first step in understanding any software is to check it’s dependencies; as natural languages are just really messy formal languages, and by the transitive property of “I just made this up but it sounds good”, it holds that the first step to understanding someone’s statements is to examine the fundamental concepts they used to construct that statement.

To that end then, lets look at you holding some contempt for the idea of “punching up”. I doubt you intended that to be the takeaway, but it’s presented as the justification for an idea you have expressed strong disagreement to. If you held it was totally valid, there wouldn’t be much a conflict. So: why is it wrong to do in this case?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 01:38 collapse

Why is it wrong to punch up? Because there being “up” requires an ordering of humans, so speaking in feminism terms that would be reinforcing the patriarchy, in regular terms people aren’t above or below each other, they’re all people. Punching up is still punching, is destructive and not constructive. Destruction isn’t becoming of anyone.

To draw a specific example, the fact Taylor Swift is a billionaire doesn’t mean it’s okay to treat her like a piece of shit and insult her to her face, make up mean names for her, etc.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 02:14 collapse

Okay! So to my eye, a lack of social hierarchy seems like a pretty ideal view of the world. How do you reconcile that outlook with the existence of things like governments or a legal system? Those would be what I consider an ordering of humans, and in that light it sounds like you’re saying “punching back” (as it were) against those social structures would be reinforcing those same (potentially oppressive) structures (an example possibly being ‘the patriarchy’) - have I got that right?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 02:20 collapse

It’s tempting to see authority as an ordering of humans, but it isn’t. Anthony Fauci is not more of a human than you are. And it’s not okay to punch Anthony Fauci for the same reason it’s not okay to punch you. But we still need authorities and so it can’t be the case that every person in the country is the authority on diseases.

No, punching back is not the problem. The problem is the idea that there exists something called “punching up” that is more excusable generally than “punching down.” THAT idea reinforces social hierarchy and oppressive structures. Particularly if you believe that “punching up” will always be punching up, invariant of what happens in the world, because that asserts that the hierarchy is fixed which even further reinforces it.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 02:55 collapse

So if I understand you correctly, your position is that there are two distinct facets to ‘arranging’ society — Order (that one person is inherently above or below another, a concept I agree is wrong) and Authority (that being the broad agreement to respect one person’s limited and highly contextual “superiority” within a specific area of knowledge).

Extrapolating an example to ensure I understand: this would mean that the legal system is granted the authority to enforce those rules society has agreed on, onto those people we’ve agreed are subject to it’s authority (which is a good way to think about it). And things like conflicting authorities can be handled in the same conceptual ‘framework’, like how people that respect Anthony Fauci exist at the same time as people who think Anthony Fauci is trying to inject us with ground up infants. Or how there are both authorities that respect LGBTQ+ people’s right to exist, and those that want us all rounded up and gassed.

But where I’m stumbling is that you’re considering “punching up” or “punching down” as something that can only be done against the Order of society (thus trying to elevate or denegrate someone as inherently above or below another person) and not something that is done against the Authorities in a society. And I can’t figure out why that would be the case.

To my eye this fairly explicitly reads as you saying that when (ex:) LGBTQ+ people attempt to “punch up” against the authority figures who want them all gassed, that action is inherently implying that they are attempting to establish themselves as inherently superior to that other person in the Order of all humanity. And I do not think that’s what you’re trying to say here, since it seems to be completely at odds with every comment you’ve made on this site in the last two months (and full disclosure I did just go and read all of them)

Is that misrepresenting your position?

(edit: I just wanna throw out that I’m not the one downvoting you)

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 03:33 collapse

Yes, likening one person saying to another that they are mansplaining, to defending oneself from literal death by chemical weapon, is misrepresenting my argument. If you are being threatened with death, defending yourself is not punching up or punching down, it’s not even a voluntary action at all, it’s just human instinct and you can’t even call that a choice.

Also, are you trying to paint a random commenter on the Internet who probably didn’t even fully read the post they’re replying to, as an “authority?”

(re edit: thanks, I appreciate that)

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:23 collapse

I didn’t liken the two though, because that’s not the representation of your perspective I was interested in. I’m curious in the meta-analytical nature of why you hold this position - as an example, where is the line drawn between “being threatened with death” and “punching up”. I assume we agree on the idea that objecting to calls to gas all the queers isn’t problematic - but is calling someone a bigot for expressing the (deeply homophobic) view that femboys are constantly horny “punching up”? Or, if not there, calling out the ‘did you just assume my gender’ joke?

I’m really very curious where you draw the line. We sincerely appear to agree on damn near every issue except the one of feminism. Why is that? Where do our opinions diverge? Do we disagree on other things that, given our respective positions on so many other topics, one could be forgiven for assuming we’d share?

Aside

(Yes, I am claiming that the internet dipshit is an authority. I don’t consider them one, I think they’re a dipshit - but my opinion isn’t the only opinion that exists, and the undeniable existence of the anti-vax movement has clearly elevated those self-same uninformed internet commenters to positions of trust and authority in society. They even put one in charge of HHS, god help us all.)

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:39 next collapse

Saying someone is mansplaining is a normative statement. You’re stating a moral position by using the word. One aspect of that moral position is the use of this obnoxious spelling, “splaining,” which is clearly meant to denigrate the desire to explain things. This is anti-intellectual, yet it’s couched in the oh-so-innocent veneer of being pro-feminism.

To contrast, calling someone a bigot is stating a moral position, but the only moral position it states is that bigotry is bad, which isn’t anti-intellectual.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:51 collapse

I’m sorry, it’s gotten late here, is your basis for claiming it as an anti-intellectual term really just that the word is a malformed portmanteau?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:59 collapse

There are several parts of the word’s meaning, some of them optional:

  1. man explaining thing to woman
  2. poorly / incorrectly
  3. dismissively
  4. that she already knows
  5. to someone who knows more about it

But the only real requirement is #1. Despite what anyone says, even if the thing is not explained dismissively and is explained well to someone who doesn’t know about it, you could still call it mansplaining because it’s punching up. Which again only serves to say that attempting to explain is the shameful part.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:18 collapse

Punching up again. You keep using that word, and I don’t think it means what I think it means. You’re using it as a stand-in for asserting inherent superiority over another person, but correcting someone on the internet does not actually imply that. You’re trying to present it as an inherently hateful and cruel act, and it’s still not. You even present that it’s not, in this very comment.

But the only real requirement is #1

Why? No, seriously, who says? You’re the one making that claim here, and you appear to be the only one doing that. Why is that the only real requirement, and why does it conflict with all the broadly accepted definitions (including the one you just provided)?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:54 collapse

Second, and pretty unrelated, I think feminism is a dishonest platform and has far exceeded its mandate. Women are oppressed in the Middle East. To say they’re oppressed here currently, relative to males, is somewhere between dishonest and delusional.

First wave feminism had a very strong reason to exist. Second wave as well. But intersectionality is a complete mess that only creates problems instead of solving them, and ideas like antiracism are positively counterproductive

Anyway, feminism doesn’t have a monopoly on egalitarianism. You can be pro-equality without being feminist, despite what feminism would say.

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:13 collapse

And gays are literally crucified in the middle east, and yet the fight to be allowed to change one tiny letter on your driver’s license is important. Why does the first one negate the second one?

Sorry, that was snarky. But seriously, where are you getting this? No not in a dismissive way, I think there’s commentary to be found here - but I’m incredibly curious what actual interaction with the subject you’ve had. The opinons you’re presenting here are almost identical to the fundamentally misinformed ones presented by commentators like ThunderF00T, Sargon of Akkad, Andrew Tate, Joe Rogan and Charlie Kirk (I can find examples of all of them repeating this stuff…) and I’m pretty sure you’re smarter than this. I don’t see that you’ve been confronted about these ideas in the last two months on lemmy (and that’s clearly all I can draw on), but have you ever confronted these ideas?

You’ve presented an idea of the world that’s quite optimistic, except on this one point that you hold an inherently contradictory position on. You’re reacting with habitual hostility, not reasoned consideration. Please, please, think about this. Have you ever actually gone and listened to, say, any video essays from feminist figures? Have you ever engaged with feminism at all outside of internet commenting? Or are you being told that this is what feminism is.

Feminism is necessary. It’s not delusional, it’s not dishonest, and women’s and men’s rights are being eroded every day in the western wold because of the current far-right administrations. When does it start being acceptable for women to fight back again, when every victory the second-wave feminists won have been reverted (instead of just half of them)? No, really, that’s a good question. When do women get to have their grievances heard?

(And… what? What’s wrong with intersectionality? It’s literally just the study of biases in culture, it’s a core branch of sociology, and the first tenet of anti-racism is education about the historical realities of racism. There’s nothing more to it than that.)

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:31 collapse

Well, I’m on my phone so apologies if my replies are shorter generally. I will attempt to answer some of these. Yes, I have engaged in a ton of discussion with hardcore feminists. I have listened to podcasts by them including Stuff Mom Never Told You and unfortunately read Brotopia. This is not my first rodeo. And you don’t need to listen to Tate or Kirk any of those extremely distasteful people to know that feminism claims to speak for men’s interests while completely ignoring them. Feminism 100% claims to be acting in the interest of both men and women, and at least for men, it completely falls short of that. You will try to correct me. That is the problem.

Any ideology that posits “<ideology> is necessary” is self-serving and borderline cult. The ideas of the ideology are what matter, and the ideology itself is just a name. If the ideas were any good, you should just as easily be able to create a new ideology from those ideas with a different name and have it be just as valid.

Which is really funny because masculism and feminism both claim to be about equality. But only feminism is the one that is right, apparently.

A good chunk of the population has been listening to feminism for… decades. What do you mean, when will the grievances be heard? We’ve heard them. Women are oppressed, the second sex. Abortion is a right. Equal access to healthcare. 84 cents to a dollar. Alimony. Some of these are addressable, some of them have been addressed, and some of them are not addressable. It’s complicated.

Perhaps I should be asking you when will men’s grievances be heard?

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:37 collapse

I’m sure I’ll get into the rest in a moment, but for the sake of vamping for time while I’m cooking dinner: to your mind, what are men’s grievances?

edit: And for a bonus, since you’ve already rejected that the core idea of feminism is “egalitarianism”, what is the core idea?

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:55 collapse

Sure thing. Thanks for asking. Well, I would say main ones are:

  • Family court — completely asymmetrical treatment of men, basically for every 7 chances a woman gets in family court, a man gets 1. This is a made up number but it’s to get the essence across.
  • Male disposability is widely accepted and not compensated for at all. A good example of this is mandatory selective service which still exists today.
  • As a result of the accepted disposability, men have a far higher death rate both by accident and by suicide rate (which is 400% that of women)
  • Title IX imposes unjust punishments on men in colleges by favoring “preponderance of the evidence” standard over the “beyond a reasonable doubt” standard — basically, if there’s even a slight chance of sexual misconduct, men can be thrown out of college without any kind of trial.
  • Asymmetrical definitions of rape which only apply to men in definition and also in practice are enforced mostly on men.
  • The above denial of female rapists leading to severe mental health issues for men who are raped or sexually abused by their female parters.
  • Generally men’s lagging acceptance rates into university (this would be more of an equity issue on par with the 83 cents to a dollar issue, as opposed to an equality issue like the others)
  • Demonization of fathers — the number of stories of fathers getting dirty looks for taking their kid into a changing room or even just existing in a playground with their kid are unending.
  • Last but not least, “male loneliness epidemic” which I think is a stupid phrase and this is one of the more unaddressable issues by everyone but it’s still a problem.

I never said the core idea of feminism isn’t egalitarianism. Just that you can be egalitarian without being a feminist, since feminism involves so many other ideas. They don’t all spring from “equality” and equality itself has many different conceptualizations. Feminism’s conceptualization of how to achieve equality is essentially limited to, “women should be given more supports” which is not a good way of thinking about it any more than an elevator’s best way of operating is “just move the person higher and higher.”

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:59 collapse

Okay I generally hate point by point responses so I’m sorry in advance, and I’ve tried to format this in way that will make it less bad to read. Also this is very american-centric, though the trends to tend to carry over across western cultures because of that convenient hegemony:

Family Court

I’m sorry, this one is a common piece of misinformation. While on the surface the statistics are clear that yes men are seldom (~10% of cases) awarded full custody, 90%+ of child custody agreements (formal or informal - it’s actually quite uncommon for a formal custody agreement to exist) are decided completely independently of the courts, and those agreements are what this statistic is based off of. Men nearly always give up custody (and yes doubtlessly the impact of the perception of court bias doubtlessly plays into this, but not enough to shift the balance this severely). The reason this is misrepresented is that THERE IS NO REPORTING on child custody decisions from the courts - it’s straight up illegal to release that information in the US and is similarly restricted in pretty much every western country - and anyone who claims that these statistics are from court decisions are either wrong or lying to you. There is almost no data on this, and the oft-cited PEW study (which was taken down) that these numbers crome from is extremely explicit about the source of the data.

Male Disposability

Yeah, this one sucks (and has sucked for all of human civilization). However, not only have feminist groups in the US been suing for decades to allow women inclusion into selective service, they are also the ones trying to get women allowed into combat roles because they legally cannot be put into them. So, feminists are also aware and also would like this fixed, and have been fighting hard to get it changed. It’s awful, but it really should be equal-opportunity awful.

Death Rate

The male death rate by accident is extremely complicated, but broad strokes is down to both a culture of heavy drinking (which is vastly improving in Gen Z/Alpha!) and that men do nearly all manual labor (the most dangerous category of jobs). There is a push for more women to be included in manual labor jobs, but it isn’t overly vehement - both biological differences make this a difficult argument, and manual labor sucks. Why would anyone want to do that if they don’t have to (this excludes skilled trades, which are HEAVILY biased against women and do not require pure muscle density - I can elaborate on how vital female welders are, if you would like, but for the sake of brevity I will delete that three paragraph rant).

Title IX

Okay this one pisses me off: This is absolutely not how title nine works, and I say that as a university professor who has to do a yearly training on Title IX, who’s been subject to Title IX hearings for sexual misconduct (both dropped, suits were not brought by the victims but a male student “on their behalf” and without informing them so that was fun, they both found out and immediately protested on my behalf so fuck yea…) and has sat on the panel for Title IX misconduct cases (though in the past twenty years at my uni, there has never been a Title IX hearing for sexual misconduct brought against a male student. It’s almost impossible to get it to happen). This just isn’t at all accurate, and I do not know where you got this information from because it is just wrong. Also, Title IX investigations are subject at very least to reasonable doubt (not preponderance of evidence, because it is a civil issue not criminal). Title IX explicitly proscribes hearings and the conduct of those hearings is subject to legal oversight and public review as well, so… yeah, go find me some examples of this having happened please.

Rape

yeah, our laws about rape are terrible. Hell, there are a number of states that still differentiate between marital and non-marital rape, and explicitly state that it’s only male-on-female (edit: marital) assault that qualifies. Here is an amazing article on how fucked up rape laws, and cultural attitudes surrounding rape, are and what feminists are doing to change the laws for both genders

Female Rapists

No argument, this one is terrible. Women also want this fixed, see above for how fucked up our rape laws are (and then just start drinking because it’s not getting better any time soon, thanks alt-right).

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ronigami@lemmy.world on 30 Aug 17:36 collapse

Yes, we agree on most things and that’s nice.

The solution to male disposability IMO should not be to increase female disposability. It should be to make male life more valuable. Use automation to make jobs safer. There should just be less need for dangerous work in the first place, we have the societal wealth to make that investment. But first we have to… care.

Title IX issues:

It’s meaningless to talk about how Title IX “works” because it varies from school to school and anyway it seems like it mostly “doesn’t work.”

You say “women also want this fixed” regarding female rapists being impossible but I have never signed on to a Feminist space and seen them discussing that issue. That’s a large part of why there is more than just feminism.

There are fewer male applicants in part because of Title IX. Obama even went as far as to say that’s the point.

…blogspot.com/…/president-obama-proves-how-differ…

I may have read Brotopia but that doesn’t mean I agreed with it. I used to work in Silicon Valley and didn’t really find the book particularly accurate. Same with SMNTY, the podcast was absolutely infuriating at times and I eventually had to stop listening to it. There are things feminism gets wrong, I don’t know what else to say about that.

Look, it’s only natural that people generally seek more power for themselves and their friends. They aren’t even thinking about or have any way of knowing the trail of destruction that causes in many cases. I’m not saying the masculism movement is right about everything either, I’d actually prefer we have both movements to balance each other out. Which is why it’s frustrating to hear people say feminism covers everything, if you believe in equality you’re a feminist, and even something as unhinged as that misandry doesn’t exist.

stevedice@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 01:14 next collapse

Aaaaaand… there it is. Careful, your incel is showing.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 01:40 collapse

Are all your comments that low-effort?

stevedice@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 01:43 collapse

Just when dealing with incels

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 01:45 collapse

And in your book incels can have sex, right, we can skip all the mental institution worthy nonsense

stevedice@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 05:05 collapse

That’s not even a coherent sentence.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 05:42 collapse

I guess your mind lacks the ability to imagine implied punctuation:

And in your book, incels can have sex — right. We can skip all the mental-institution-worthy nonsense, then.

stevedice@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 06:01 collapse

It’s adorable that you think punctuation was the problem with that sentence.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:04 collapse

Well, it’s a perfectly well-formed sentence.

stevedice@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 08:23 collapse

Sure it is, buddy.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 06:56 collapse

I was defending you then but I can’t anymore. No, it’s not because feminism boosts it, it’s because extreme feminists (the real feminazis) and misandrists love to abuse this word

Feminism is good, but generalizing men or accusing of sexism without evidence is dumb sexism

Just like accusing of racism without evidence. It’s defamation

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:01 collapse

It’s extremely unclear what you’re trying to say. When were you defending me?

Is extreme feminism not considered feminism in your mind?

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 07:15 collapse

When were you defending me?

Just by upvoting, I meant

Is extreme feminism not considered feminism in your mind?

No. Feminism is wanting to reach equality and stop discrimination between sex/genders, which I’m all for. Extreme feminism is wanting women superiority, or attacking men to improve women’s situation

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:19 collapse

OK, I’m just going to throw it out there that most people consider extreme feminists to be feminists.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:00 collapse

Violent and strict feminists are probably feminist if they seek equality. I don’t think it’s a good position to be in, but that’s it

There is a popular trend of “all men”, or “the world would be better without men”, this is not feminism, and that’s the definition of “extreme feminism” for me. Misandry is extreme feminism. These people can go fuck themselves. They’re enemies of feminism.

Hating others is easy. There’s a lot of xenophoby, homophoby, transphoby, sexism. We don’t need more hate from the marginalized people themselves.

I hope what you’re saying is not true. I’ve seen things that make me think it could be, but I still hope must people aren’t morons.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 14:57 collapse

To say those people aren’t feminists is a way to avoid accepting that feminists can believe those terrible things. Yes, it’s destructive and yes it discredits the rest of the movement. Feminists rarely if ever disown them.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 15:04 collapse

The original definition and ideology of feminism is reaching gender equality in a society that favors men

I’m just basing myself on this definition. Maybe it changed. Your opinion is valid too in my opinion. In the end, I prefer to see it my way because I can still say I’m a feminist, in the good way

Feminists rarely if ever disown them.

I haven’t seen many people talk about them indeed. Maybe because the misandrists are the one who speak the loudest

What a sad world we live in

squaresinger@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:57 collapse

My biggest pet peeve with terms like “mansplaining” is that it does contain a real issue with some actual definition, but then it uses such a blunt and crude word that’s just plain besides the point of what it actually means.

If this was a term against women, feminists would be up in arms because the stupid terminology almost guarantees that it will be understood and used wrong.

Because fundamentally, the word itself is man+explaining, and it’s used just like that: Whenever a man explains something a woman doesn’t want to hear, it’s mansplaining. No matter who is the expert in the field.

In a prior job I was head of software development. I built the team, I built all the software, I worked on all the hardware we sold.

We hired a new marketing person. She had no prior experience, it was her first job in the field after returning from a long maternity break and before that she worked in an unrelated field. She put stuff into marketing material that was plain wrong. She listed features that we not only didn’t have, but that didn’t actually apply to the whole product category. When I pointed that out, she tried to shut it down with “Don’t mansplain”.


The concept behind “mansplaining” is real and it is a problem in some circumstances. But the term is toxic and needs to go.

(Similar story with the term “toxic masculinity”, which is often understood as “all masculinity is toxic”, not as “machismo”. This one really annoys me, since we already had a really good term, “machismo”.)

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 08:05 collapse

I agree - the term has reached a point where at this point it’s become little more than an alt-right dogwhistle. The phenomenon is real, and really extremely common, and a new term should absolutely be introduced so that discussion of the concept isn’t derailed by people constantly going “ugh it’s such an oppressive thing”. I doubt that new term would avoid the same thing happening, the alt-right does love to destroy the language of their enemies, but hey that brief time where it’s useful would be convenient as hell.

Side note:

(I wouldn’t normally point this out, but it’s beside the point. That you’re making a (literal, not dismissing you) semantic argument and the first sentence has a semantic error was too amusing not to point out.)

squaresinger@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 08:54 collapse

You are right that any term can be destroyed by the alt-right, that’s totally true (I mean they got the term “walkable city” to mean something like “apocalyptic ghetto” in their sphere), but I think that “mansplaining” (and to a slightly lesser degree “toxic masculinity”) were already dead on arrival.

Mansplaining is such a bad term, that it already doesn’t work without the alt-right touching it.

At least in German speaking counties (can’t speak for the rest of the world), feminism is known for being really particular with words used for/against women, because they know that words shape understanding. For the last 20 or so years we have had (and still have) a quite heated discussion about gender-correct language¹. But instead of applying the same scrutiny to terms used for men, these terms are just adopted without question.

I just want the same scrutiny to be applied for all terms. “Hysteria” is rightfully a word that dropped out of use, and so should “mansplaining” be.

Why not just use a gender-neutral word like “overexplaining” or just describe what’s the problem instead of using a fighting term that only causes pushback instead of actually helping people understand problematic behaviour?

¹ German is a gendered language, meaning almost every term has distinct male and female versions, and gender-correct language means that you use constructs that mention both genders. The reasoning is that using the generic masculinum (aka, use the male version if you don’t care about the gender) leads to people not considering women, so e.g. when you hear “Arzt” ( (male) doctor) it makes women working in that job invisible and shapes who wants to become a doctor. Similar with female-first terms like “Schwester” (which means “nurse” or “sister”).

Warl0k3@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 09:03 collapse

Why not just use a gender-neutral word

Because it’s not a gender-neutral problem. In a non-gendered language, an explicitly gendered term is generally used for strong emphasis. I’m sorry, I just don’t know why insights about semantics in a gendered language are relevant in a discussion of a non-gendered language. It’s not that it’s not interesting, it is, I just don’t know how to address it within this context. (Does german have the word “mansplaining” too? Or like, a term to describe a similar concept? Maybe we can ‘borrow’ that one off you guys too, compound words are so dang handy sometimes…)

squaresinger@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 10:19 collapse

Yes, German does have the term “mainsplaining” too.

The issue here that “mansplaining” tries to tackle is “person with little knowledge thinks that everyone else (or specifically a person with a lot of knowledge) is stupid and thus has to explain stuff they already know”.

And while in many male-dominated fields that is a mostly-but-not-exclusively male problem, just go to any parenting-related thing as a man. Then you’ll have tons of women “mansplaining” very simple parenting concepts to you.

As the father of two young children, I have been “mansplained” by women about everything from how to change diapers to how to talk to children. Quite often by women who are about the age of my grandmother, but who think they still know everything about raising children.

I try to give my wife the chance for a child-free night out 1-3 days a week. Been doing that for years now. And yet, every single time my wife does something with her mother and I have the kids, my mother-in-law asks me if I can really handle that and gives me “helpful tips” about what I can do with my own children.

And do you know how often random women butt in when I disinfect my immunocompromised child’s hands in public places? “Desinfection hurts the immune system”. Yeah, sure. Dying from an infection does so as well. (The kid has cystic fibrosis.)

Women “mansplain” just as much, just about other topics.

cmhe@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:33 collapse

Yeah, it is. The act of mansplaining isn’t gender specific. It is about the attempt to raise someone’s status above someone else by nitpicking what they said, with often obvious facts.

The men doing it to women just seem more popular, but men and women do it to anyone.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:39 next collapse

The fact that the boiling is not spontaneous is not obvious especially on account of how it’s not true. So that definition is going to need some tweaking. And anyway I think it’s much more likely that the person just didn’t notice they were replying to an astronaut than that they thought they could elevate their status. They were trying to share their (incorrect) knowledge.

cmhe@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:48 collapse

I guess the question is who they were even talking to. Where they talking to the astronaut, or anyone reading their message. That would make a difference.

If I say: “When the sun rises…” and someone comes along to enlighten me about astronomy and how the sun doesn’t rise, that would be mansplaining and not correcting. If they talk to someone else because my words inspirerd them to think about this, then it wouldn’t.

ronigami@lemmy.world on 30 Aug 17:56 collapse

So your conception contradicts the other person in this thread’s, because they said it’s not about group dynamics and you just said it is. They literally said men mansplain to each other.

lemmy.world/comment/19090994

Yet again we must come to the conclusion that the only thing everyone can agree on regarding mansplaining is that it’s “a man explaining.”

cmhe@lemmy.world on 30 Aug 20:43 collapse

I don’t see the contradiction… If a man explains something to another person in a condescending and nitpicky way, it is called mansplaining. But it becomes blurry if the man explains it not to one other person, which can be assumed already possesses that knowledge, but a group where some people might find that comment not useless or condescending, were it could be a correction or clarification instead.

Astronaut explains excitedly about her experience of the day, with a joke and some not completely factual information while addressing the general public. The ‘water spontaneously boils’ is not a scientific description but a way to make people interested in learning more about the science behind it.

Here are two perspectives this could be seen as:

  1. Man notices that and addresses the Astronaut, explaining to her something that she already knows, in order to raise his own status, through condescending and nitpicking. -> mansplaining
  2. Man notices that, assumes the Astronaut knows, but wants to give more information/clarification to the public about this why that happens. -> not mansplaining

From the wording of that exchange, I would think it rather is addressed to the astronaut, so case 1. But this is open to interpretation.

Electricd@lemmybefree.net on 29 Aug 09:06 collapse

The definition says the opposite. But even if it was the case, it should NOT be used like this becaue it is specifically targeting men, which would be sexist. Being the very thing it meant to destroy.

teslasaur@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:47 next collapse

But is he wrong?

Valmond@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:49 next collapse

He’s obnoxious and uncalled for 🤷🏼‍♀️

teslasaur@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 09:10 collapse

But is he wrong? Isn’t mansplaining unless he’s wrong.

Do you think the girl is more or less of an asshole for calling someone a mansplainer when they aren’t?

Valmond@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 10:35 next collapse

He’s obnoxious and uncalled for 🤷🏼‍♀️

teslasaur@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 11:35 collapse

Not an answer to my question. But ok.

Droggelbecher@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 13:19 collapse

He is, because spontaneous is, in fact, the correct term here.

But also, mansplaining just means that someone explains something to another person when it’s painfully obvious that the other person knows everything they’re explaining, often way better than the person who’s doing the explaining. Usually requires the over confidence that comes with unreflected privilege, such as being a man who subconsciously assumes that their gender gives them intellectual authority. Being wrong isn’t a requirement for mansplaining. This would be a textbook example even if he had left out the first sentence (the part where he’s wrong).

teslasaur@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 15:28 collapse

He is, because spontaneous is, in fact, the correct term here.

Aha. I didn’t know that

backgroundcow@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 10:14 collapse

Spontaneous boiling is the scientifically correct term, so, yes, he is wrong for correcting her.

scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&q="spontaneous+b…

drath@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 06:54 next collapse

Didn’t notice it was a woman at first, but isn’t it an appeal to authority? The fact that someone is an astronaut doesn’t mean they can’t also be a dumb fuck. Just look at Russians - Oleg Artemyev, Tereshkova, Rogozin. I’m not familiar with NASA astronauts but surely some of them were also complete idiots as well?

Valmond@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 07:49 next collapse

The guy is clearly “mansplaining” though.

Is there a gender neutral version of mansplaining?

jaupsinluggies@feddit.uk on 29 Aug 09:12 next collapse

Themsplaining?

Rekorse@sh.itjust.works on 29 Aug 09:21 collapse

This post made me realize mansplaining can happen to anyone.

0x0@lemmy.zip on 29 Aug 08:20 collapse

The fact that someone is an astronaut doesn’t mean they can’t also be a dumb fuck. Just look at Russians

<img alt="" src="https://lemmy.zip/pictrs/image/941d72ec-0002-4040-aad9-d748f3ececaa.webp">

Did they teach you that in school? The same school where they taught you Sally Ride was the first woman in space?

I’d say being an astronaut pretty much negates being dumb as fuck, especially in the early days.

Valmond@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 10:36 next collapse

Germany sent the first rocket out in space, and both the URSS and the USA benefited from the Nazis to make things happen.

Russia? They can’t even launch an ICBM nowadays.

Also, being “first” is good but kind of a dick measuring contest IMO.

0x0@lemmy.zip on 29 Aug 16:41 collapse

kind of a dick measuring contest IMO.

A nice sum-up of the Cold War, yes. Carlin said it best.

drath@lemmy.world on 29 Aug 12:49 collapse

Not sure I get your point. I wasn’t implying that all the Russian cosmonauts are dumb fucks, just that the only cases I’m familiar with all being Russians.

affiliate@lemmy.world on 30 Aug 06:00 collapse

yeah she may be a nasa astronaut and everything, but probably still doesn’t know as much as i do about boiling water. (i have cooked lots of pasta)